I Accepted You on LinkedIn And Then….

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I looked at my feed.


  • You immediately spammed me thinking I needed your product/service (I don’t). The form letter was ful uf tpyos. The ALL CAPS told me it was an important message. I better check it out!
  • You immediately asked me to hire you, do your Visa paperwork, and fly you in to start working. OK, can you start tomorrow?
  • You hit on me. Really? Through LinkedIn from another country? I know that you are safe because your photo is a ‘car seat belt’ – selfie. Stay classy.
  • You were disconnected and possibly reported.


  • I realized that you ‘like’ every. single. thing. Oooh, a joke about hiding a dead body on the second page of Google. Priceless (in 2004)! And now my feed is cluttered, and I can’t find the good stuff.
  • You hit the like button on inspirational quotes (and ads) and do nothing with the information. You answer math problems and word searches. Useless.
  • You aren’t a professional photographer, but you upload and like pretty pictures of private islands that are 10,000 miles from you. Dreamy!
  • When someone posts a job and tells everyone how to apply; you ask, “how do I apply?” or post something like “want job.” Hired for great listening skills!

I only “muted” you. We can stay connected, but I am not sure why.


  • You post great content.
  • You post an inspirational quote, but you tell us what it means to you.
  • You reflect and encourage others to do the same.
  • You comment, like, and share other great/useful content.
  • You have genuine conversations (thanks for adding this Deb).

These are just my feelings. We all like different things but be aware that a ‘like’ shares it with our network. Having connections means it’s not just about us.

If you are not sure what has value, observe some valued LinkedIn members. A few that I think continually deliver on the yessss: Dustin McKisson, Jeffrey Strickland, Deb Helfrich. Follow them or find a LinkedIn mentor in your network.

Sure there have been a few creeps and jerks, but far more really good people with interesting backgrounds and great insights. I’ll take the UGHs and the MEHs to get to the YESSS but I wish I didn’t have to.

Yes LinkedIn, we know…only accept invites from people we know. I know a lot of hotel people, but I like a diverse network. I am not looking for quantity of connections, but I am always looking for quality.

I accepted your invite…your move.

Reposted with permission. To read the original on Trent’s LinkedIn click here.

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4 Comments on “I Accepted You on LinkedIn And Then….

November 17, 2015 at 4:38 am

Good stuff, dude. Definitely worth sharing in the top six this week, as long as you don’t get a swelled head about it.
LOL, Jim Murray

Trent Selbrede
November 17, 2015 at 6:35 pm

Thank you for the feature, John White! This one was a lot of fun to write!

Tasheika Fulmore
November 18, 2015 at 3:19 pm

I am at my desk laughing. But you forgot about the creepy men that lurk in your inbox after they compliment your “profile”. Perhaps you can give these types of tips on how to properly use LinkedIn more often. I know that I can certainly use it.

Trent Selbrede
November 18, 2015 at 8:26 pm

Thanks, Tasheika. I’ve only been hit on a few times by some creepy women. I couldn’t cover them all! Here are my other Linkedin posts.


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